Jan 3 2012
Games are a Reflection of Behavior as Told by John Satta
You are standing on a small stage and shouted: “What is the name of the game”
“Earn all you can!” Back.
“Who is responsible for your guests?”
“Yo!”
The audience is composed of ninety men, all prisoners in a maximum security prison.
One more thing – you’re a woman.
Alicia was offered for three years every Thursday at the FCI (Federal Correctional Institute) in Bastrop, Texas
“I had to help my skills as a corporate trainer to meet these men, their view will move himself and the world.”
“Towards the prisoners taught me so much, perhaps more than they have been taught.”
“In my business training, using the games as an opportunity to identify obstacles and find the change in perception. What I do, that his conduct has come into a game of an exaggerated view of their behavior in real life.”
The games are an opening act to be true to our nature to respond immediately, rather than a careful response. Depending on the players, who can carry out our review on a game in the real world, but do not act differently. In an emotional game, without taboos.
In a game that can cause the brain rather than logic. Because: “It’s just a game.”
Something to say, just a game tends to downplay its significance. Because as trivial and irrelevant, for permission to leave, us, our true nature.
When we mentioned this idea, said some colleagues, some of them are stories of self-discovery. A woman, a very sweet and nice in “real life” was described as “the enforcer” known as playing hockey at school. Another said that when in a race against strangers, they are “brutal” and very competitive game.
So, when our true character comes out a game, what can we do with this information?
Situations so that we can remain true to our nature? Can you play a game of real life to our true nature to blossom? The most obvious example is to see things like winning a game. This keeps the competition and the winner takes all the entertainment.
However, Covey and others have told us how to create win-win situations. Is there such thing as a win-win game – a game where everybody wins, nobody loses? Can you imagine a game where you have your competitive runs a larger goal? Can the proverbial pie gets bigger? As someone told me, to forms of “I win” to “win.”
What is the name of the game? Earn as much as you can!
Who is responsible for your guests? I am!
Alicia played the game with the prisoners who was described as “the game handshake.” He wore a pair of size, height and weight, and explains the rules. “We played the game for 45 seconds. You get one point if they are male in the hip, you get a point if to touch the hands of the hip.”
The vast majority of couples had a combined score of 0 points. Some pairs generated in the range of 10 to 20 points.
But a few scored 260 points.
Higher scores have recognized that the name of the game and scored the responsibility is not a win-lose (or “zero sum”) to define the game. This means that a person can not win at the expense of others.
Of course it was all a trap. Alicia them matched by size, length and weight of expectation that a race was set in tune. She was singing with her stress.
And they forgot to tell the couple had a team and team members have the values ??were combined.
“I deliberately did not say they were expected to work with their peers. I have never said that competitors”.
We all know that working together “formal” team to win. The revelation here is that through cooperation are able to maximize the individual notes.
What is the name of the game? Earn as much as you can!
Who is responsible for your guests? I am!
The rules say nothing about contraception from a different person, a high score. The few who “must” quickly settled into a rhythm “for you and me.” And they could not, as long as the game went on hold. At the same time, fight the other teams and would be exhausted long before the winners. And if the few teams that the two who “has achieved” There were allegations of “fraud” in order to deal with on the spot. “We’ve seen what they did, but thought they were misled or not understand the rules.”
Collaboration – the competition is very pleasant arrested in the concept of confusion called “prisoner’s dilemma” for two persons for a crime has been, and there is enough evidence for both in jail for a year ..
The police keep them isolated from each other and offer to do the same: “If someone calls and the other not, the indicator is free and the other sentenced to 3 years if you speak well, who are two years ..”
Partners can work together (to remain silent), and both have only one year in prison. By the overflow of two of the partnership with the police, the two work for 2 years.
A deserter is free, while those who helped three years.
The dilemma is made by faith, confronting greed. The temptation of greed in the habit of competition together makes us blind to a different perspective.
I do not think that prisoners only with them. If Alice has groups of executives to play this game, fall into the same habits as the prisoners. In fact, some companies “understand” that no one sessions.
There seems to be a dichotomy between competing and winning. Winning the idea of ??cooperation seems strange. In fact, we see the other players complain that those who “do things” are a fraud!
What you do depends on your point of view of the game. If the game is seen as a unique event, why not cruel – there will be consequences. But if this event is a series, then cooperation is undoubtedly the best long-term strategy, if only because it is an opportunity for revenge on the other.
In studies of prisoners’ dilemma style games (played for points and no less jail time), finally, putting players in a strategy known as “eye for an eye”. Your actions are as follows: “If the last time together, I’m going to work the next time you spilled last time, I blame the next time. “.
The word “defective” helps us see the difference – the opposite of collaboration (title on the same side) go elsewhere.
The desire to compete and win are not the same.
Terminology of the game (strategies, tactics, movements, etc.) are often applied to the “grave” of life. Because the pun has a connotation of triviality, I sometimes use hair describe the things we say.
What if we consider that “everything is a game” is – we behave differently?
The philosopher James P. Carse writes in the first chapter of the finite and infinite games: “There are at least two types of games could be called finite and one infinite game is played a finite goal of victory, and play endlessly with .. the purpose of continuing the game. ”
The book is subtitled “A vision of life as play and opportunities.” Its premise is that a game is about the relationship between the players.
In the book, describes two types of players. Finite players play within the rules, infinite players play by the rules. Finite players play to end the game (to win), players continue the game infinite (by any means they see fit). Finite players play to win, players continue the game without end.
Players who “get it” playing with the rules for a finite game at infinity.
If you liked this article has intrigued, we recommend that the various “games” that you are looking to “play” and with whom. Who are your “buddies” and what kind of game you play? With the growing awareness of our behavior and the behavior of others, we are able to “earn all you can create” mentality.